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I Am a Mother With a History of Self-Harm

https://themighty.com/2017/10/mother-history-of-self-harm/

　

Hello

I deeply admire your courage to keep it together as you parent. I’ve been there. I’m still there!

I’d like to raise a really sensitive issue. It might be a good idea to think through how your daughter will react to your scars as a tween or teenager. It’s great that you’ve decided to explain it to her. Secrets are never good. No doubt she will become a compassionate adult as a result. However she may need you to cover your scars as she gets older. Teenagers are hyper concerned about fitting in with their peers and she might feel embarrassed by them, not wanting to answer awkward questions.

My mother self harmed very badly. Her forearms were very scarred and I was self conscious about it. I would ask her to cover up, but she said she was ok with it and that I should be accepting and ‘get over it’.

I don’t want to be a downer,, or upset you, but I felt I ought to tell my story so that you might be able to navigate things when she gets to that age.

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